Things I didn’t expect about owning a Cocker Spaniel

When I was a little kid, I was subscribed to a kids’ animal magazine. It arrived every few weeks in the mail, and I loved it. Living in the city, we didn’t get to see many animals, so it was the second-best thing, learning about horses, cats and different breeds of dogs, along with beautiful, poster-size pictures, of which I picked my favourites to go on the wall. That was how I fell in love with Cocker Spaniels. Their long ears and genuine, soft eyes, along with their thick silky coat, always got to me. Any time I met a Cocker in person, they were so happy and cuddly, and it melted my heart. 

A couple of years ago my dream finally came true and we got a Cocker Spaniel puppy, who we named Chilli. I’ve done the research about their personality and what you can expect, thinking this will be easy. We were told Cocker Spaniels didn’t need much exercise, they were content just being with the family. As a child we had a Golden Retriever and I imagined Cockers to be just a smaller, easier-to-manage version of them. I was due for a rude shock.

Here are some of the things I didn’t expect about a Cocker Spaniel:

  1. Anxiety- Chilli has such high anxiety that he is incapable of staying outside while we’re inside for more than a minute, without crying, barking or hitting the door. This also applies to leaving him outside a coffee shop or the chemist, literally impossible without creating a scene. When we do leave him outside a shop, people often look at him with mercy, wondering if he has been abandoned, as he looks and sounds so upset. 
  2. Energy levels- Chilli has an infinite amount of energy to spend, and this is not an exaggeration. He regularly comes back from two hours of running around the park and playing with other dogs, ready for more exercise. It is nearly impossible to tire him out. We send him to the country with family to help with this, which usually buys us one day of manageable energy levels upon his return. Then it’s game on again. 
  3. Difficulty to train- I was actually told about this by some people before we got Chilli, but chose to attribute it to individual dogs or owners who didn’t really know how to train dogs. My father was a dog trainer and I thought we will have a better idea. I was wrong. Except for basic commands which he obeys (sometimes), it has been harder to train him than I ever imagined. It’s not that he doesn’t understand, he simply doesn’t want to obey a lot of the time. 
  4. Grooming- I’ll admit, I love brushing Chilli’s long, beautiful hair. But the amount of time it takes to fully brush him is around one hour and to maintain the hair properly you’re looking at a daily brush. Needless to say, this is nearly impossible. Add to this the ears and paws that get wet at every single walk in winter, and you are up for a failure in maintaining the hair in its’ perfect-looking condition. If you think maintaining the hair is just for looks, think again. The extra-long hair creates more mess than shedding, regularly having grass seeds, dry leaves and dirt stuck to it, creating the perfect combination of mess on our floors. 
  5. Food- Talking about mess, most dogs are good at one thing when it comes to household chores- cleaning up food scraps. Not Chilli. Chilli has never been very interested in food (thus contributing to the difficulty in training him) and he often leaves food scraps untouched on the floor. Worst yet, he has a bizarre habit of taking food pieces to the living-room rug, and after a good sniff and a lick, leave it there. You will not be surprised to hear we have an ant problem in our house. 
  6. Attention- unlike a Golden Retriever, Chilli wants almost constant attention from us. Following us around the house (which is small!), getting between our legs, jumping on us and barking for attention are regular behaviours in our home. And I haven’t even mentioned guests, who produce any combination of barking, jumping, begging for attention and running around the place trying to contain his excitement. 
In action

If you think all of this is normal puppy behaviour, you’re right. Except Chilli is almost two years old and after meeting older Cockers, I’m confident to say this does not often change with age. 

I love Chilli and am so grateful to have such a happy, loving dog in our life. He provides much joy and laughter with his silliness and excitement about life. But sometimes you just want to relax on the couch and write a blog post in peace, without the crying or jumping that was my company for this writing session. 

L. K. Bridgford  

Why I chose to live in Australia

In light of recent depressing incidents in Australia (i.e. the murder of Courtney Herron and the election results), I thought it timely to reflect on why I am here in the first place. It’s also a good opportunity for setting the scene for my blog and introducing myself.

Born and raised in Israel, I never thought of Australia as an interesting destination to travel. There were no exciting or exotic stories about the place, unlike other destinations I heard of. The movies and TV I watched were set in the U.S. and that was the home of English-speaking culture that I knew. In fact, there were no stories at all, so as far as I could tell, Australia was on another planet.

Here are a few of the reasons I decided to move here;

  1. The food – I love being transported into Thailand, India, Ethiopia, or anywhere else on the globe simply by tasting a traditional meal in Melbourne.
  2. The people -You can be anything and anyone you want here, and that is freeing in a way that’s hard to explain to those who know nothing else. People respect each other’s privacy in a way I haven’t experienced before, which allows you to just be. There are way less cultural expectations here which means I need to explain myself so much less. In fact I rarely have to explain my decisions to others in Melbourne, people mostly accept my decisions as they are, mine.
  3. The roads- some of you might be tempted to leave this blog right now thinking I have no idea what I’m talking about (road rage right?). But hear me out. I used to live in Tel Aviv and finding a park there is literally impossible. I’m not talking about a need to walk 10 minutes to get home. I’m talking about no where to park. I would often spend 40 minutes or more after an evening shift trying to find a park and resorted to parking on the sidewalk, while blocking a pedestrian crossing. This means I had to get up at 6am to move the car before getting a fine. So the Melbourne driving situation is a huge improvement, and besides, public transport here is awesome (see the next point!).
  4. Public transport- again you might be thinking how terrible our system is and we don’t even have a train to the airport (I’m with you on that!), but hear me out. In Tel Aviv there are no trams, zero. There are only four train stations across the city and the rest you need to manage by bus. Growing up in the 1990s means I still get anxious on the bus (they used to explode in Tel Aviv regularly) but it was my only option. So the tram five minute walk from home in Melbourne, or the train station which takes you anywhere, is AMAZING.
  5. Cost of living- only when you compare how much you earn to how much basic needs cost, you can truly appreciate how easy we have it here in Melbourne. Another way is to live in Tel Aviv, work two jobs and realise you can barely cover the bills. No such thing in Melbourne, where even working for non-for-profit gives me a salary which is nearly four times what I earned in Israel.
  6. Workplace culture- being able to leave work on time, or even having a set end time to your workday, are things you should not take for granted. Back in my home country most people don’t have a time they finish working, and if they do it’s considered unprofessional to leave at that time. You are expected to stay late and is seen as slack or uncommitted if you do otherwise.
  7. Families support- I knew I wanted to have a family in the future, and the organised support system in Australia is better. I’m not saying the best in the world, just better from what I would have got elsewhere. Firstly, new Mothers’ group which we all heard of, is unheard of in Israel. This is one of the most helpful thing a community can offer to new parents. Secondly, the acceptance that women take about 12 months of maternity leave is incredible compared to some countries like to U.S. and Israel, where many women are expected to return to paid employment within several months at the latest. Of course, this is an individual choice, but I am grateful to be living in a country where either choice is fraud upon and women can keep their jobs for longer after having children.

These points are not to say there are no problems in Australia or Melbourne, there are many (which I will get into in future posts!). I do believe that being grateful is important, and also taking things into perspective is critical for our society’s improvement. Once we realise the good we do have, we can focus on what matters and what issues we need to tackle next in our community.

L. K. Bridgford